In the 2025 Netflix movie The Life List, the main character, Alex (played by Sofia Carson), learns valuable advice from a friend: she’ll know a guy is right for her if she can answer “yes” to four simple yet insightful questions. These questions are more about understanding yourself than about judging your partner. If you find yourself answering “no” to more than one of them, it may be time to reconsider the relationship or evaluate whether you’re with the right person.
Here are the four questions to help you reflect on your relationship:
1. Can You Share Everything On Your Mind?
True emotional safety in a relationship means being able to speak your mind without fear of judgment. If you feel like you often hold back your thoughts, ask yourself: What am I afraid of? When you can openly share your emotions and your partner listens with care and understanding, trust grows. This kind of openness helps build a deeper connection.
2. Are They Kind?
Pay attention to how your partner treats others, like waitstaff or even strangers. How do they treat you, especially when things aren’t going perfectly? Kindness, especially in challenging moments, is key to a healthy relationship. A partner who shows kindness even in tough situations creates a more compassionate and supportive connection.
3. Do They Bring Out The Best In You?
A good relationship should enhance your life, not hold you back. If you find yourself shrinking, silencing your true self, or abandoning your passions to please your partner, this is a red flag. The right partner encourages you to shine and celebrates who you are, helping you grow into the best version of yourself.
4. Can You Imagine Them As A Parent To Your Children?
Even if you don’t plan on having children, imagining your partner as a parent can reveal a lot about their character. Do they have patience, responsibility, and emotional maturity? This question isn’t just about parenting — it’s about understanding your partner’s long-term potential and how aligned you are on core values.
These four questions help you see whether your relationship aligns with your deeper values, and whether it’s making you a better version of yourself.