Our twenties can often feel confusing. There are no clear rules for life, and we may wonder if we’re on the right track. One day, I felt something was wrong with me, so I spoke to my counselor about the struggles I faced in college.
At first, I thought I had a mental health issue. But my counselor told me that not all negative emotions mean we are broken or incapable. Some uncomfortable experiences are actually normal and can help us grow into the person we want to be.
1. You handle things alone and feel isolated.
As you mature, you become more independent and take care of things on your own. You don’t want to burden others and often say, “I can handle it.” While this can make you feel lonely, you also take pride in your strength and self-sufficiency.
2. You recognize personal struggles.
You are aware of your own challenges—whether it’s anxiety, mood swings, trust issues, or other struggles. You start to notice when and how they affect you, and you put in the effort to work through them.
3. You feel the need to cut off certain relationships.
Over time, you realize you have many acquaintances but only a few real friends. You start to see who genuinely cares and who doesn’t. While it’s painful to lose people, you learn to walk away from toxic relationships for your own well-being.
4. Trusting people is difficult.
You’ve been let down before, so you’re careful about who you let into your life. You don’t believe everything people say easily. However, when you do trust someone, you remain loyal and value that connection deeply.
5. Life feels boring at times.
You often feel unsatisfied, always looking for something more. Doing the same things every day can feel dull, making you ask, “What’s next?” However, a “boring” life might just mean you avoid unnecessary drama, which is actually a good thing.
6. You are very familiar with sadness.
You know that life isn’t always happy. There are days filled with hope, but also days when you feel at your lowest. You have experienced heartbreak, failure, and disappointment, but you accept these as part of life. Despite the pain, you keep moving forward and learn from every challenge.
7. You constantly feel like you’re running out of time.
It seems like 24 hours in a day aren’t enough. You’re always busy, barely getting enough rest, and struggling to make time for yourself and loved ones. But this also means you are determined to succeed and work hard toward your goals.
8. You regret past mistakes.
You sometimes blame yourself for poor decisions in the past. You wish things could go back to how they were. However, you understand that regret won’t change anything, so you focus on learning from your mistakes and moving forward.
9. You miss your childhood and loved ones.
Growing up isn’t easy. You often think about your childhood when life felt simpler. Being away from family and loved ones is hard, but deep down, you know your struggles will lead to a better future for yourself and those you care about.
10. You feel lost and uncertain about the future.
You might seem confident, but deep inside, you often question yourself. You wonder about your purpose and what you truly want. Life is unpredictable, and that makes you anxious. Still, despite the uncertainty, you continue to meet your responsibilities and push forward.
Conclusion
If you stay productive and turn your struggles into growth, you’re doing just fine. Take things one step at a time, and remember that everyone moves at their own pace. Everything will fall into place when the time is right.