There’s a story about a psychologist named Arthur Aron who did a study to see if he could make two strangers fall in love. He created a set of 36 questions for them to ask each other. After answering the questions, they had to look into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes. It worked—they fell in love and later got married.
A writer from the New York Times tried this experiment with someone she already knew. They also fell in love and ended up getting married. But the important thing is: both people were open to the experience.
This method can be helpful for women who are serious about love, but again, it works best when both sides are willing.
Women who do well in love often share these habits:
1. They Meet Lots of People
If you want love, be open to meeting many people. You can’t know who’s a good match without trying. Whether you use Dr. Aron’s 36 questions or not, the more people you meet, the better your chances.
One woman said she dated 30 men in 15 months before meeting the one she married. You might not need to meet that many, or maybe more—but you won’t know unless you try.
Why it matters: Studies show that people who meet more potential partners (especially online) have a better chance of finding someone right for them.
2. They Are Open to Different Types of People
Many women stick to a “type”—like someone who’s rich, funny, smart, or loves to travel. But sometimes, the best partners aren’t exactly what you expected.
It’s better to focus on qualities that really matter long-term—like being caring, ready for commitment, and good at solving problems calmly.
Why it matters: Being open-minded helps you grow and gives you more options. Research says people who are open to different personalities often find better matches.
3. They’re Open and Willing to Share
To build a real connection, you have to let the other person see the real you. That means opening up, being honest, and a little vulnerable.
The 36 questions become deeper and more personal as you go. The idea is to build trust and closeness slowly over time.
You don’t need to share everything all at once—just be genuine.
4. They Believe in Love
If you don’t believe love is possible for you, you may not try hard enough—or at all.
Believing in love gives you the energy to keep going, even after bad dates or disappointments. That hope is what keeps people going until they find the right one.
Why it matters: Studies show that believing in things like soulmates can help—but only if you stay realistic and don’t give up too soon.
5. They Are Confident in Themselves
You have to know your worth. As Steve Harvey says, “You are the prize.”
Don’t wait for someone else to make you feel worthy. Be sure of yourself and what you bring to a relationship.
Confidence helps you avoid settling and attract people who truly value you.
6. They Know Attraction Still Matters
Let’s be real—there needs to be some natural attraction. Even if someone is kind and smart, if there’s no spark, love may not grow.
Research shows that physical attraction is important, especially early on. It matters less later when emotional connection becomes stronger—but it still helps to have that chemistry.
Final Thoughts: Love is a Choice
Yes, love can feel like fate, but it also takes effort and choices. Ask yourself:
- Will you meet lots of people?
- Will you give someone new a chance, even if they’re not your “type”?
- Can you open up emotionally and be honest?
- Do you believe love is out there for you?
- Will you keep trying, even after tough experiences?
If your answer is yes, then your chances of finding love are high, no matter your age or past. It all starts with you.